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Monday, September 26, 2011

The Gift Of Aloneness

Many of single woman sometimes struggle with being alone. Some hate living alone, going out alone and coming home from work and eating alone. However, I love being alone.. I used to do everything by myself. I love walking down the street alone, I love eating alone, and sometimes shopping alone. I love having me-time!

Once I came back here, in my own country. I simply lost that feeling. I need to rely on my driver to drive wherever I want to go. I need permission from my parents to go to church. I need the company of my friends because I was not allowed to leave the house alone and come back home before 11.00pm latest. DANG! What a huge different here..

Here, I wont complaining about whats going on with my new life here. Maybe I just need to adapt more and understand more and take this opportunity to learn again to live under the parental authority. I lived separately with my parents and siblings for 5years, yes I do have friends that stick closer than brother, yes I have housemates for quite sometimes, yes I found my church as my second home. But I used to depend on my own self, doing this and that and be responsible with my own choice. So I basically kinda shock especially when I see transportation here is a big issue.

This Sunday I cant go to church because my driver was not around. My dad promised to drive me but in the end he changed his mind too. Some more he told me not go to church first because of the suicide bombings in solo. I was so mad and spent half of the day just crying and sleeping. :S I know his attention, he is worried. I explained the best that I could.

Just a short update about what I feel and I struggle with. Here, I want to encourage all of you that to be alone is a gift. If we are single, we have the gift of singleness for now. Do not be afraid to be alone. Everyone need to be alone, and we need to realized the gift of aloneness.

Aloneness is an investment in oneself. It's a time to recharge one's emotional and spiritual batteries, to think and pray, to gain insight or find a solution to a pressing problem, to rest after a battle or a long day, to find grace to deal with life and all of its challenges, to hear from God. -C. Hale

Before Eve was created, God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone" (Gen 2:18). That statement would surely apply to the woman as well as to Adam. While singles may be alone, we don't have to be lonely. Loneliness is an attitude, a state of mind. People can be lonely even in a crowd or at a party. It's not necessarily a lack of company that makes a person lonely. Loneliness is a decision; we can choose whether or not to be lonely. When we're lonely, it may mean that we have not yet learned to enjoy our own company.

Jesus took full advantage of his singleness and moments of aloneness or solitude. Mark 1:35 says, "Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed."

It is when we are alone and still that God can speaks to us most exceedingly. Didn't he tell the psalmist, "Be still, and know that I am God" (Ps 46:10)? We all need moments of aloneness to hear from God, reflect, meditate and recreate.

Lets we embrace time of singleness as a special time of aloneness with God, not as a time of loneliness. Because there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens (Ecc 3:1). Make sure you live your life to the fullest so when you look back, you look with no regret at all. The point is being able to realize that it is truly a gift and a blessing from God in every situations. I embrace mine to the fullest, how about you? And for sure He will open up more things for us as we keep walking with Him :)



Loneliness is an attitude, a state of mind. People can be lonely even in a crowd or at a party.

Like this Ni d^^b Pernah tuh aku pulang kantor, maen sama anak-anak kantor sampe malam (nakal, jangan diikutin:p) trus di perjalanan pulang aku bayangin, kalo dah merit gak mungkin aku ngelakuin itu. I can't spending time seenaknya, hehehehe.

Tiap musim yang datang dalam hidup kita bawa sesuatu yang berbeda, nikmati aja, ntar kalo dah ganti musim, blom tentu kita bisa memiliki apa yang kita punya di musim seblomnya.


Ni, bahkan aku yg merasa sudah utuh, terkadang masih suka feeling lonely and compare my self to others, especially to those who are couples. So, thank you for posting this post...really really encourages me! :)


@mega ahuahua.. anak nakal yah ;p yup2 lets enjoy and treasure every moments :)

@louisa gpp lagi sa,, following God itu lifetime process kok :) so enjoy the learning progress and keep clinging to Him.. emang ada saatnya dimana temptation utk compare our self with others and gatel liat yg lain punya pacarr tuh guedee and hard to resist but with God's grace we are more than conqueror :D

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