Is He Still Godly Man?

I have received one interesting question from my silent reader, I guess. Because she refused to mentioned her name and leave it anonymous. Usually I neglect anybody who comments on my blog using anonymous. I just feel, why don't you just leave your name and let me know more about you? Some of them leave such an encouraging comments. Hey, why leave such a beautiful words and leave no name?! I want to know my readers and I will not bite you anyway. Such a great feeling to know that someone regularly read my post and I love to make new friends :D So I wish after reading this post, whoever anonymous next time please leave comment with your name.

Alright back to the topic, here is the question that she asked on my previous post "Semua cowo sama"

I knew a guy..dia takut akan Tuhan..tapi dia mendekati teman baiknya yang sudah berpasangan..bahkan menyuarakan perasaannya yaitu suka dan cinta kepada teman baiknya yang sudah berpasangan karena pasangan teman baiknya itu di anggap rusak dan sebagainya, saat pasangan tersebut putus dia langsung mengambil kesempatan itu...is he still Godly man?

An Interesting question isn't it? Thanks for leaving such a question! Firstly I thought to reply right away after your comments, then I realize it become too long so I decided to post here :) I will try to answer the question and I hope it will give you an insight and not confuse you. And any opinions, feedback and suggestions are more than welcome. Let's discuss! :D

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Dear anonymous, 

Well, I cant say much whether is he still godly man? Because we can't judge people only based on one action he did, rite? 

Maybe you may check, when he confessed his feeling to you, did he take any action to chasing you? Tho he know that you are in relationship already. If yes, then personally for me, its not wise. Knowing that someone you sympathy of already in relationship yet you still chasing over them. 

However, no one is perfect and you know hard it is to guard your heart and control the feeling. Moreover, love is one the greatest feeling above all. I know that it's not wise to judge someone by his past but it is good to consider his past when he offer you something. But people do change, and once we make Jesus the center of our life, everything change. Really change. For better. We often heard that Christian is not about religion but its about lifestyle. Then you may know is he really a man after God's own heart by his action, his words, and the decision that he make will always based on God's will. Counsel to your parents, kakak rohani, bestfriend, and most of all ask wisdom from God. As with all matters of the heart, you will know when you find the answer. 

If now, you want to consider him as your future spouse then in my opinion is.. you need to forgive him for whatever he did in the past. Knowing that he ever did it to you, no doubt you may have the feeling/ thinking that he will do the same thing to other girl (confessing his feeling to some boy's gf). Before start the relationship with him, you must have the confidence and secure enough that he is a man that you can follow, a man that know no compromise when it comes to the word of God. 

One thing to remember, forgiveness is a promise not a feeling. A promise that you will never use his past sins against him :)